What’s Your Favourite Sex Position? The perfect sex style for every kind of woman

The prelude to a kiss then comes the touch, what have you, then the oohs and the aahs! My God did I just do that (I love him/her, I hate him/her), peeps what is your rating on a scale of 1-10? I am terrible when I spoon, (size, perhaps?) incredible when I mount. Peeps, dungarees, I don’t have the body for. (Someone has got to do the dirty job!)
‘Sexperts’ have come up with the different types of sexual positions. If a study were to be carried out, different folks would like all sorts. (The Bazooka or the golden shower?) Are you amazed? Quick quiz – What makes a certain position preferred? Is it the fact that it is more comfortable than the other or more acceptable in society? Is it a case of, I paid; I will get what I want?
Truth be told, most consenting adults have attempted different sexual positions. The Missionary being the all time favourite (maybe for its versatility), ‘the wheel barrow’, ‘doggy style’, ‘Baban Riga’, and many other adventurous ones. You can even get sexual guides (all media); Karma Sutra, A-Z of sex, Men Are from Mars and women are from god knows where, etc, ‘edutaining’ (word alert) us on inhibitions, aphrodisiacs, most importantly, creative sex. These guides expose us to a new world of sexual adventure. Out of the boredom into the adventure they campaign. So if you decide to choose, choose your position wisely.
I for one have pondered on this for a long time, I had to ask questions. A lot of response has been provided. Women definitely have their preferences and so do the men folk. The missionary position is as old as prostitution itself. It is pro-creation personified. To the best of our knowledge, it can be argued that it was the only position known to man for a long time, before sexual deviance set in. One question though, does sexual deviance spurn from boredom? As sure as the sun rises from the east, I would not want to be caught up in the repetitive task of gratification on my back! (What if he/she is not good to look at?)  Don’t get me wrong, I am not suggesting that sexual deviance be forte but I am sure even though other sexual positions are deviant by nature, with the right balance, even grounds will be reached.
Situation Uno! New entrants into the act think ‘Doggy Style’ is demeaning. (Don’t say this to Mr. Quickie) The argument is primarily the eye contact; you can’t be too sure what the other party thinks. If this were anything to go by, why is it universal? Is it the lack of commitment in many sexual relationships? Many men would have sex in the conventional position being the ‘missionary’ with their wives while the previous relationships or the ‘shorty’ on the side provides all other positions.
The truth is, Ronke if you don’t deliver, Patrick will take it from Ijeoma and believe me she loves the ride. What I am trying to say is Audu if she asks for the cunny, (lingus) you better give it or Okon would!  Do you want to be trapped in a closet? Go figure.
When the missionary position becomes the only act that suggests love, then what hope do we have in terms of longevity? Longevity in relationships, marriage, friendships, or whatever realm of sexual involvements that may exist out there, clandestine or socially acceptable. There has to be adventure. It’s the key. If you are squeamish, straitlaced or prudish with your person, chances are that someone will help you do it better. Baby! It’s time to lose your inhibitions. Who is to say that smut and purity cannot co-exist? Who is to say that he won’t do it eh? She needs it badly. Peeps get your freak on with your partner or someone will plant in fallow land. Guys, tongue tickle her feminity, Babes, suck that dingo silly.
Yep! Our former perception of perfect sexual love is shattered. Even as a straight beans and potatoes woman, I am sure you will agree with me that too much of it is actually an expression of boredom! (My principal point of view) In the one eyed world of boredom, adventure is king. Baby! Make everything useful, even the washing machine. Talk to somebody. Rent an unfurnished apartment. Hey! This time, it might be 10 weeks instead of ‘9 1/2 weeks’, and then you can send her some roses instead of ‘wild orchids’. So which is it? Mission Impossible or all the way??

 

It is no secret that regular sex enhances the human body mentally and physically. Regular sex also brings about some loss of weight as sex is the only calories burning act I know that gives you ecstasy. However did you know that the shape and size of a woman as well as the size of the man’s joystick can go a long way in determining her sexual gratification?

Experts say certain positions may be suggested for different types of women which would go a long way in enhancing her response and sexual pleasure.

Short women: for a short woman, the best position would be for her to be on top and ride her man, however If you don’t always want to be on top, spooning is another great height-equalizer. Simply lie on your side in a semi-fetal position, and have your man lie behind you in the same configuration. This position is not only highly intimate but also comfortable. Once he enters you, he can cradle you with his arm and nuzzle your neck as he thrusts from behind.

Another suitable position for a short girl who’s with a taller man is the 69 position you can lie on your sides, with your bodies facing, in upside down of each other and her feet by his head. Your boyfriend can curve his back so your head meets his genitals and vice versa. You’ll find this a lot easier — and more comfortable — than if you were lying on top of him.

Also recommended for a short girl is the position where she lies on her back on an elevated surface (like a table) while he stands in a fixed position.

Fat or obese girls: you sure don’t want to try with her on top especially if you are a slim man. The missionary and doggy styles would come highly recommended since both are pleasurable and also very comfortable for fat women. Obviously a fatter woman would tend to have a lot of skin around the entrance of her vagina and this might make penetration ‘slopish’ for the man. So it is recommended to use pillows to prop up her hips and buttocks and invariably position the vagina to a position made easy for penetration. An obese or fat woman can also enjoy sex from the back.

Tall and slim girls: not much of a problem for this category of women to take a position. All positions including the missionary position would work. If she is very skinny the doggy might pose a little problem for the man considering her hip bone may be hitting hard on him and this could cause some pain however with proper positioning and good lubrication it would turn out just great.

How Strong Is Your Sex Life?

Try to answer without telling me how many times a week you make love or how many times you both reach orgasm or even how your performance compares to what you read about in magazines. A strong sex life has to do with meaningfully connecting with a wisely chosen lover. This isn't to say that seeking "the big O" -- or multiple Os -- isn't a worthwhile and pleasurable endeavour, but if you focus only on the numbers, they won't add up.
Popular media suggests that prowess trumps personality and that it's okay to struggle with scruples as long as your horizontal samba sizzles. Performance is key -- measurable outcomes, in the form of simultaneous, earth-shaking orgasms, seem to be the way to separate the good guys from the mediocre. But we're in big trouble if we're counting on Hollywood to show us how to do it. We're at risk of putting technique over tenderness and valuing orgasm over intimacy.
Why such a mystique about anything sexual? While there's more education than ever before about how bodies work and how relationships evolve, I think we're still wondering, on a personal level, if we really measure up. If surveys show that the average couple makes love three to four times a week and we only do it on Saturdays, are we hopelessly flawed and inadequate? What if we were to throw out the rating cards and get back to the basics of living and loving in ways that celebrate the amazing sexual beings we were created to be?
I'm proposing a reflective, noncompetitive approach that is more about touch and less about technique. You will know your sex life is strong when:
1. You enjoy your body and regularly bathe, groom, nurture, exercise and rest it. You are grateful for its strength and its softness.
2. You delight in your sensuality and explore with curiosity and not criticism the sensations and the wisdom of each age and stage, celebrating gain rather than mourning loss.

3. You enjoy loving touch and laughter, good music, exuberant dance and just enough fine wine to wash down your daily bread, well prepared and artistically served.
4. You regularly schedule time to be playful, intimate and merged, not losing yourself in the process but freely giving of yourself physically, emotionally and spiritually; surrendering yourself to pleasure and passion without reservation; trusting yourself enough to know that you will not go where you are not safe nor stay where you are not honoured.
5. You delight in the flavour of the week, telling your partner what body part of theirs most intrigues and arouses you. Be creative; start with the toes. You know your own body well enough to guide the ministrations of your loved one for mutual pleasure.

Are you a good partner?

Davido's 'best pillow ever' Revealed

Davido seems to be having the time of his life in the US where he is currently. First he tweeted - I no go lie..... My life sweet die! Then later posted this photo on his Instagram page and captioned it - best pillow ever. #choppinglifetinz :-)

{Must Read} Afternoon Sex, Affairs Can Be Part Of Life On The Road

NEW YORK - Robert C., a New York City banker, is divorced with children. So is his girlfriend. Which means that finding the right time and place to get intimate can get complicated.
Recently, Robert whisked her off to the trendy Flatiron Hotel in Manhattan for an afternoon romantic rendezvous. It cost him $145 to rent the room for a few hours in the middle of the day.
Robert, who asked that his full name not be used because of the personal nature of his experience, found the room on a new website called Dayuse-hotels.com that lets people book boutique hotel rooms in New York City for a few hours midday. "How about a naughty nap in a sexy hotel with your sex partner?" the website playfully asks.
"It was perfect," Robert says. "This was an opportunity to spend some time together."
The website, out in time for Valentine's Day, throws out into the open what many business travelers – and businessmen and women – have likely been doing for years: slipping off to a hotel for an afternoon tryst.
"This is a business that all hotels have, but a lot of people keep it hush-hush," says Yannis Moati, regional manager for Dayuse-hotels.com, which made its debut in France in 2010 before arriving here six months ago.
The travel industry has always been an avid promoter of romance. A new U.S. Travel Association survey of 1,100 U.S. adults found that 72% of them believe traveling inspires romance. The industry group, not surprisingly, recommended that lovers give each other a trip this Valentine's Day rather than chocolates.
But sometimes, there's an illicit nature to romance on the road. Being on the road has long been associated with different "road rules" that open the way to infidelity or random hook-ups. Think of the 2009 film Up in the Air, starring George Clooney and Vera Farmiga, about two people who carry on an affair while traveling for work.
Although there's no definitive data on how many business travelers get into romantic entanglements on the road, therapists and relationship analysts say it happens frequently among single people and married ones. They can be one-night stands or long affairs. They can be with co-workers, friends or strangers.
Gail Saltz, an associate professor of psychiatry at the New York Presbyterian Hospital Weill-Cornell School of Medicine, says people take on different personas when they're on the road. When alcohol is flowing at a hotel bar, many travelers let their guards down.
"There's the feeling that you have a different identity when you travel," she says.
Whatever the circumstances, romances can potentially have damaging consequences if they involve infidelity.
"Why are people cheating on the road all the time? It's safe, they can't get caught, nobody will see them, and they get the opportunity to basically alleviate the guilt on an airplane ride or car ride home," says David Wygant, a relationship expert and coach in Marina Del Rey, Calif.
Opportunity knocks

Akie Davis knew it was wrong but he began cheating on his wife while traveling for work because it was easy.
"A lot of times, when the company pays for you to go to these exclusive places with great scenery, you're away from everything," says Davis, 42, of Houston. "You kind of wish your spouse was there. And they're not."
A co-worker and former girlfriend was there instead of his wife on one particular work trip. One thing led to another, he says, and the two ended up together. Their affair lasted a year, and their liaisons only took place when they were on the road.
Now divorced and author of Black Man's Version To Exhale, he recalls regretting each time he cheated on his then-wife.
"I felt shame. I was embarrassed," he says. "It was a very guilty feeling, especially when I had to come back home knowing about the infidelity."
He is now engaged to another woman. He still travels for work, but he does not cheat on his fiancée. "It wasn't worth it," he says of his affair.
Guilt can be one consequence of having an affair while traveling, but Jane Greer, a relationship expert and author of What About Me? Stop Selfishness From Ruining Your Relationship, says another danger is that you end up hurting the person you had the tryst with.
"You may consider it a one-night thing and a light-hearted casual thing, but then the person you're with is more invested in it, and then you've really got a messy situation," she says.
An even messier situation would arise if you brought home a sexually transmitted disease, Wygant says.
"Cheaters tend to not be very careful," he says. "They love the risk. It's a thrill to them."
If that happens, you can probably expect your spouse or partner to find out about the infidelity. "There's the end of the relationship," Wygant says.
Even single people run into dangers when they hook up on the road, Saltz says. "We're sort of living in this hook-up culture," she says. But "for many people, divorcing sex and their feelings is easier said than done."
If the romantic encounter involves co-workers, there could be legal implications.
Anthony Oncidi, partner and co-head of the California Labor and Employment Law Group at law firm Proskauer in Los Angeles, says if the relationship involves a supervisor and subordinate, a break-up could be fraught with problems. The two could stop communicating, and their work could suffer. Other employees could also claim that the person involved with the supervisor is getting preferential treatment.
Even when two employees are on equal levels, one can claim that the other is harassing him or her.
For that reason, Oncidi says, many companies have non-fraternization policies preventing or at least discouraging office romances.
"The rules regarding non-fraternization and non-dating follow employees on the road," he says. "When you are traveling for business, you are dragging the workplace with you wherever the travel takes you."
But there's not much companies can do if an employee wants to have an affair on the road. It only becomes the company's business when it involves another employee and there are potential liability issues, he says.
Not just a romantic afternoon

Dayuse-hotels.com originated in Paris, appropriately nicknamed the City of Love.
Moati says demand was strong for people who wanted a hotel for hours at a time. While many couples were renting rooms to get away from their kids and revive their relationships, there were many other clients who weren't checking in for sexual interludes, he says.
Many clients were businessmen in transit who needed a room for a meeting or to rest before a flight. Others were suburban mothers who wanted to shop and pamper themselves for a day.
"For five or six hours of usage, you get a clean room in a good hotel that's WiFi-enabled," he says, of the half-price deals.
The service expanded to other European cities, then to New York. In three years, bookings have gone from 60 a month to more than 300 a day in eight countries. The plan is to take it to other U.S. cities.
Moati says Dayuse-hotels.com is targeting a higher-end clientele with three-star-and-above boutique hotels. So far, 18 New York City hotels have signed up, including the MAve NYC Hotel in the Flatiron District and the Hotel Belleclaire in the Upper West Side.
Hotels like the idea because they can make extra money during the hotel's downtime.
Benjamin Kaller, director of revenue at the Flatiron Hotel, says the hotel is getting more requests for day-use reservations. The guests check in at 11 a.m. and have to leave either by 4 p.m. or 6 p.m. "It's a great additional stream of revenue you can make use of," he says.
He says most seem to be business travelers coming in from a red-eye flight or looking for a place to have a conference call. But he doesn't really know, he says, because none of the hotel employees are allowed to pry. "We don't really question guests when they come in," he says.
Antonio Gabriel, a New York photographer, has rented rooms through the website twice for photo shoots. "I can use it as a place to regroup and do some work," he says.
With Valentine's Day coming up, he says he doesn't think it would be a bad idea to reserve a room for something other than work.
"It's a pretty cool idea," he says. "You start your day and around noon, you have lunch and you say, 'Hell, I want to have a room for a couple of hours.' Why not?"
Convincing yourself

Therapists and relationship experts say many travelers who have affairs on the road rationalize it by arguing that if it happens in a hotel or in another time zone, it's almost like it didn't happen at all.
"Cheaters can rationalize anything, as long as they can scientifically prove that it didn't happen in their brain," Wygant, the dating coach, says.
It's not just men who feel more sexually liberated when they travel.
"It's still more common for men to have affairs, but women are better at lying about them," says Christina Steinorth, a licensed psychotherapist in Santa Barbara, Calif., and author of Cue Cards for Life: Thoughtful Tips for Better Relationships.
Steinorth says fessing up is usually the best policy and doesn't necessarily mean the relationship is doomed.
"I think if you don't, your partner is staying with you under false pretenses," she says. "In all other areas of our life, we are given 'informed consent.' We're informed of all the downsides and possibilities of downsides. Relationships should be no different."
Not all romances on the road end up in a trail of tears, or involve lying.
Gigi Griffis, 28, a single social-media strategist traveling the world, met a local resident while visiting Thun, a town in Switzerland. The two spent several days hiking together. She extended her trip by a few days. She eventually had to leave, but they keep in touch via e-mail.
"I had a few days of being very sad," she says. "But also of telling myself that having that experience was worth a little sadness."

Reasons Why Nigerian Men Do Not Enjoy Sex With Their Wives

Recently, studies have revealed that most Nigerian men do not enjoy sex with their wives. One out of every 3 marriages struggles with the problem of differing sex drives. And these had led to some of the major break ups in homes these days. Often the loss of sexual pleasure and intimacy results in depression, suspicion, anger, resentment, infidelity and divorce. Although it is clear that this issue is rarely one-sided, it is nevertheless surprising to many that it is often the man who puts the brakes on sexuality and the finger get pointed at the woman. In this report, BOLA AKINBOADE presents some of the reasons most Nigerian men don’t enjoy sex with their wives  as the level of intimacy between them also suddenly becomes cold.

SEXUAL INCOMPATIBILITY

Sexual incompatibility which leads to sexual disharmony and dissatisfaction is the major reason of break up in most marriages. Partners have different attitudes to sex. Your attitude towards sex depends on many factors, the major ones is upbringing and religion. If a girl was taught that sex is something dirty and shameful, than she is very unlikely to feel free and to be open to adventures. Most women refuse oral sex and consider it to be very dirty while men have quite the contrary opinion on this matter. In this situation both partners feel unhappy and sooner or later such a couple starts to experience problems, if unsolved, may lead to cheating or break up. Also if there is a discrepancy in the wife’s reproductive organ, such as tight vagina, this couple are likely to face some problems and this kind of sexual incompatibility can be very rarely resolved. Other factors that may also sexual incompatibility include; differences in the frequencies of sexual desire, different sexual appetite, and others. Most men seem to have a stronger sexual urge than their wives which they find difficult to meet up most of the time.

DIFFERENCES IN SEXUAL DRIVE

For some couples struggling with their relationship, a man may want more sex, while a woman feels their relationship doesn't have enough.
It is hard to expect sexual harmony if the husband wants sex 5 times a week, while the wife thinks that once time is enough. They simply have different sex drives. A woman’s sex drive differs from a man's .A man's sex drive is not so easily turned off. He has been hardwired to think about sex and want sex and, very rarely will a man find himself too tired or too stressed out to have sex. While the woman sex drive diminishes as she has to battle some of the marital issues. There are many things that can easily result in a loss of libido in women. Pregnancy, a hard day at work, the responsibilities of taking care of a home and family, hormonal fluctuation, depression, stress, less help and attention from her husband which was not this bad when they first got married.

LACK OF ADVENTURE

One of the reasons some men give for not enjoying sex with their wives is the fact that she is not sexually adventurous enough. For most couples, the extreme passion and desire of new style of love quickly subsides. During those first few months of lovemaking, everyone's adventurous to varying degrees of personal comfort level, because everyone's really on an adventure. It's all exciting, and it's all new. But in some couple of years, they passion begin to wane and the thrill is gone. Some women suddenly becomes uptight and all the effort by the husband to ignite back the fire seems unproductive.

BOREDOM

Another reason why some men don’t enjoy sex with their wives is boredom. Their sexual life at a point becomes monotonous, same place, same station, same way every time. Men like variety, and when a couple get stuck in a routine, the man is the first one to get dissatisfied with it. What was exciting once upon a time now seems dull. Some men may not be having sex with their wives because sex simply isn't worth the effort. They'd rather watch television.

ANGER

Anger and resentment is another reason some men not only enjoy having sex with their wives.Oftentimes, the anger remains unexpressed. This silent seething has the effect of Novocaine numbing many of the senses, including sexual desire.Many husbands get fed up with a nagging wife at home. And since the wife has become an annoying bully; he shuts down completely and withholds the only thing he thinks might hurt her.

DEPRESSION

Depression is another reason why some men don’t enjoy sex with their wife. Many times, the man may not even be aware that he is depressed over the stressful things in life-economic stress, career stres, not achieving things he wants and others. He is not aware that he has responded to the stress with anger, and the anger has moved into depression. He is not enthusiastic about having sex at all. Compounding the problem, some of the more common antidepressants can cause loss of libido or inability to perform sexually.A report says that antidepressants can have another negative effect on a relationship: it diminishes interest in connecting emotionally with a partner.

SHE GAINS A LOT OF WEIGHT AND BECOMES LESS ATTRACTIVE

Another reason men stop desiring their wives is because they no longer find them physically attractive, or suddenly gained so much weight. Many women do not take care of themselves. They go out of shape and lose out on their figure. At home, they do not take care of their appearances or dress up properly. Naturally, a man becomes fed up with his wife and found her attractive any longer. Men are visual, so excessive weight gain may indeed pose a problem for them. And since Obesity also diminishes libido, an over weight wife may not be as responsive as her partner.

EXTRA- MARITAL AFFAIR

Trying out something new is often a reason given by the husband for indulging in an extra-marital affair. He often feels he needs a change of taste and would like to spend time with someone who is “different” and perhaps “more exciting”. At times, the wife could also be responsible for the situation. A wife paying too much attention to children and household chores often forces a man to go in for relationships outside marriage. He feels neglected. He wants more attention and since he is not getting it at home he prefers to get it from an outsider. And even though he doesn’t have any desire to leave his wife, sometimes the man feel guilty of this act which limits the full expression of his love and desire for his wife. And when he is getting so much fun and varieties from outside, it will be difficult to enjoy the boring and monotonous one from his wife which no longer gets him aroused.